~ Tell your child to save and print out any threatening messages and to notify an adult they trust when something happens online that they are uncomfortable with.

~ In extreme cases, your child can change her email address, screen name, or cell phone number, or shut down certain IM or text messaging features on his phones and computers.

~ Put your family computer in an area where you can supervise your child’s IM use, rather than in your child’s bedroom.

~ Take an online tour with your child, emphasizing the importance of safety from strangers.

~ Emphasize the importance of blocking IMs from strangers and review strategies that will minimize the likelihood of falling prey to a cyber-bully.

~ Forbid your child to bully online, emphasizing that the rules are the same as they would be in person.

~ Warn your child that cyber-bullying can result in legal trouble. In certain situations, restraining orders and police involvement have been engaged to stop online harassment.

~ Bullying once can lead to chronic bullying, as kids come to enjoy the sense of power over others that it can give them. IM can even encourage this process, since it provides an easy, consequence-free way of bullying.

~ Ignoring the misconduct of your kids will only tell them it’s ok to disregard “Netiquette”—etiquette on the internet. Encourage courtesy, so kids avoid hurt and misunderstanding in the future.

~ Listen to your child when he expresses concern over an online confrontation. The incident has very serious and real implications in his everyday life, not just online. You, as well as your child, need to realize this fact and treat problems seriously.

~ If you are unsure of the bully’s identity, forward a copy of the conversation to abuse@ the Internet Service Provider from which the email came such as: [abuse@Name of Website]

~ If your child is the frequent victim of a cyber bully schoolmate, alert school officials so the offender(s) can be dealt with in school as well as online.

~ Warn your child to cut communication with the cyber bully, even if the offender is an alleged “friend.” Teach your child to use the “ignore” and “block” features so he can avoid future confrontation.

~ If your child is bullying others, try to unearth his motivation for doing so. Ask him to express why he feels the need to act out in this way.

~ If he is a frequent offender, take away the computer or restrict IM usage.

~ Monitor your child’s activities to ensure no future cyberbullying.

nice . .. we have to apply this for ourselves too .. ..